It’s unfortunate that the majority only consider “love” as being a consuming romantic feeling, or anything that makes us swoon.
If we thought of love and happiness, as even the smallest ordinary acts of kindness and friendship, life would be so much better. There isn’t anyone in the world who couldn’t use a little more love in their lives.
And if we’re being totally honest, the only reason why people don’t have more love in their lives, is because they often feel intimidated or put off looking and working for it. Many think of love as being difficult or sacrificial, or ultimately more emotionally strenuous than we really have the energy for.
But letting more love into your life can be, and should be effortless — it’s the only way you’ll realistically sustain it. So if you’re keen to work on letting more love into your life, here are a few points to help you out.
1. Unconditional Love
The oldest relationship we all have is with our parents and grandparents. And if you’re lucky enough, it’s unconditional right from the moment you’re born. Which is why most of us are on autopilot with them. We have never had to impress or coax them into loving us. They sometimes may not like us, but they’ll never stop loving us.
In return, we give them the worst kind of love; lazy love. We make no effort and expect them to be grateful and dazzled by our mere existence.
That be said, if you invest nothing, you’ll get nothing. So invest. A short walk, a lunch date, a simple phone call – and the return is incredible. Spending time with a parent amplifies the bond you once had until it becomes a source of strength.
Are you capable of making yourself happy? If not, can you fill this “happiness gap” sustainably, by seeking it only in external sources?
In other words, you cannot give love, if you don’t love yourself. And the only way you can be more loving is by taking action.
Self-love isn’t just giving yourself permission to spend the weekend doing things you love. It’s about asking yourself the hard questions. What do you want from your life? And then following through.
“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.” – Maxwell Maltz
It’s asking you to place your self-esteem on a weighing scale. This way you can figure out your mistakes and why some reoccur. Self-love is self-awareness, met with the capacity for change. Once you start the process, you’re protecting yourself.
The more you concentrate on loving yourself the more you will radiate positive feelings of love toward others and attract their love in return.
3. Oldest Love
There is great value in reconnecting with old friends. People’s lives take different paths, at various speeds and that doesn’t mean that you cannot remain friends. It may be hard because of location or job responsibilities, but these people you keep in touch with least often are the historians of your life.
A simple text message with “remember when…” or tagging them in a throwback photo will open the warmth of love that will flow through like no time has passed at all.
4. Real Love
Love – both for lovers and friends – isn’t smooth and shiny. No matter how much of a hopeless romantic you are, real love has scars.
Some people are scared of the possible ups and downs love and happiness can bring. Many would rather walk away from a friendship than risk their heart. But you’d be surprised at how resilient your heart can be.
5. Law of Attraction
“The universe doesn’t always give back love from where you gave it. Your generosity to one person may be returned by a complete stranger. But if you keep putting it out wherever you see that it’s needed, you’ll keep getting it back in buckets.” Rule 99.
Kindness comes in the form of two types of love. It’s not only self-love, but also love to the world. The ripples of carrying out a loving act, move outwards and onwards to others, eventually making its way back to you.
6. Motivational Love
When someone upsets you or makes you angry, most of the time their motivation is love. Understanding that gives you power to be bigger than your anger. Ever heard the saying “it’s only because I care”? The majority of the time, people’s reasons come from a place of love. A motivating love to see you do best, and although it can sometimes come in the form of criticism, or truthful words, it comes from the heart.
7. Individual Love
Just as everyone looks different, with alternative different, love is not the same from each person. It’s incredibly individualistic. And what one might have experienced or felt, another may be unable to relate.
Every single love has its own shape, colour and history. Don’t let anyone tell you what to do with yours, when they have no idea what your heart has been through. – Poorna Bell
8. Returning Love
Love is your heart going into battle over and over again. If it survived once, it can do it a thousand times more. Whether it’s romantic, friendship or even self-love, there are highs and low to experiencing love and no matter what your heart will feel once more.